I have found it absolutely mind boggling to think about some of the criticism that has been heaped upon Tiger Woods following his much-viewed and over-analyzed apology last Friday. I am utterly amazed at those who have lashed out in zealous indignation, righteous judgment and cynicism regarding what they allege are ulterior motives and lack of sincerity.
What? Have these critics ever walked in his shoes? Have they ever been confronted with world- wide scorn and scrutiny? Have they ever tried to express regret and humility in front of a doubting and skeptical audience that numbered in the millions? Try walking in those shoes and then think about how you would like to have your heart-felt remarks received.
Anyone familiar with a 12 Step Program realized immediately that after 45 days of rehabilitation Tiger was pursuing at least two and maybe three of those all- important 12 steps. He was admitting his guilt, blaming no one but himself He was making amends to those whom he had so badly hurt and asking for forgiveness. And he was recognizing a Higher Power. These are all included in the program. Yes, there are more steps that must come. But the fact that, at this very moment, he is back in rehab, working on changing his character and the way he thinks, represents a new outlook that should be encouraged at every level.
To paraphrase an old adage: “When you see an elephant dancing, don’t criticize his technique, applaud the fact that he can do it.” In other words, don’t be the first one to cast a stone and read into his statement more that was said. Don’t be such a hard-hearted skeptic. Pray for him… encourage his efforts… and truly hope for a reconciliation with his family. That, it seems to me, is all he asked for. Forgiveness for his admittedly hedonistic and selfish actions? It’s something we all need from time to time.
Was his apology sincere? I don’t know. Will he slip and fail again? I don’t know. The recovery process is exactly that… a process. It’s not like a light bulb that lights instantly when you throw the switch, it’s more like an old florescent tube that flickers a little when you throw the switch and sometimes will even go completely black before the light fills the room.
Why don’t we just give him a break. Root for him and remember that he is on a journey… the most important one of his life.
